Divorce substantially impacts everyone in your family, but you may want to turn your eyes toward your kids following the split. While the breakup can benefit your kids because they no longer have to experience fighting within the home, they still have to adjust to a new life in two households.
Major life changes like divorce can result in childhood stress and anxiety. Fortunately, there are ways you can help reduce the stress your children experience to help them acclimate to their new normal.
Offer respect and compassion to your children’s feelings
Kids may show anger, sadness and fear over the divorce. Respect the feelings and allow them to talk about them. Never bad talk your ex in front of the kids. Remember that children who feel torn between their parents may feel forced to take sides. Both you and your ex make up your children and they can internalize your feelings towards your former spouse.
Treat your former partner as a business associate
After a marriage breaks down, it is normal to struggle with friendliness. You may not want to spend time with your former spouse, but you must learn to come together for your children’s best interests. For example, do regular check-ins with your ex and discuss upcoming events. Keep all conversations professional and centered on the kids. Let each other know about significant changes in your children’s lives or that will have an impact on your kids.
Children thrive in an environment where they know their parents love them the same as they did before the divorce.